Friday, April 27, 2012

Walking in Heels...Or, Yet Another Reason to Feel Inadequate

Nifi the Cat (aka the mad Pooper) has not been feeling lately and the vet has an opening this morning so I will be unable to write a new post for today.

Nifi, normally a out-going love machine with a flair for the dramatic has been anti-social and very out of sorts...enough for me to be concerned. So, off we go.

In view of an article I just read about a new trend of plastic surgery so women can fit more comfortably into the towering high heels and platforms that are so popular today, I thought I'd repost a story about my own travails with high heels.

It appears that women are having "fillers' injected into their toe pads and the balls of their feet surgically altered to accommodate the current trend of six to eight inch heels. Great googly moogly is what I say to this. What's next girls? Why not bind your feet like they did in old China? Teeny tiny feet were considered very sexy then. Did you know that they also had their heels cut off, too?

Wake up, women of America. Don't you know it's all a plot to keep us down?


We recently attended a wedding at which I bemoaned the concurrence of having a bad hair day with a social occasion where you would hope to look your best.

Well, people, it isn't just hair that's a problem. It's the shoes, too.

I was reminded of this while watching the morning news to see what fresh hell had been unleashed upon society (there was plenty),when the camera came in with a long shot on one of the anchors.

Dressed in a conservative turtle neck and slacks, her foot was exposed--and, upon it was a leopard print stiletto heel that looked as if the chorus of S&M singing Nazi hookers from the musical Cabaret might wear them. In other words, they were fabulous.
Yes, Nazi hookers.

It reawakened my bitterness over the shoes I have taken to wearing at special occasions.

It's all about the heels. I'm afraid I simply cannot walk in them.

I bought a new pair of shoes for weddings a while back. Accepting my lack of balance and ungainly lurching, I found a nice pair of sensible dress shoes. Low-ish heeled but not clunky, they work under skirts or the swish of chiffon pants and while they do not scream Nazi hookers, they do the job.

The point is I can walk in them and not create a one-woman floor show where I stumble and struggle from the ladies room back to my seat or, on a rare trip to the dance floor.

You know that trip--when the power-crazed MC says "Now ladies and gentlemen, if you wish happiness and good fortune to the newlyweds you must join them on the dance floor but if you wish them a lifetime of abject misery and hopeless despair, you will remain in your seats..."

No one dares remain seated for that. Not even 93 year old Aunt Edna who suffers from bunions, vertigo and must drag an oxygen tank behind her.

Unfortunately, I could not find my practical shoes on the day of the wedding. I hadn't left myself time to tear the house apart, foolishly assuming they would actually be in the closet with the other shoes. I had to go with an old pair with a rather high heel.

I kept them off in the car, slipping into them upon arrival.

They felt fine and, for a shining moment, I allowed myself to dream that I might survive but the moment I stepped out of the car, I almost fell on my nose as my heel got caught in the uneven gravel of the parking lot.

Damn you gravel.

I felt all eyes upon me (although there wasn't a soul in sight--we were late) as I stumbled, minced and tottered into the church and fell into a pew.

Throughout the ceremony all I thought of was my feet, bitterly observing that everyone around me appeared to be having no trouble whatsoever navigating on heels much higher than mine.

I wondered if they'd all taken lessons. Had I missed a seminar at Bloomies on how to walk in four inch heels?
Thanks for nothing.

Is it a problem with my gene pool? Did my prehistoric ancestors only wear practical flats as they rolled dough for strudel in their caves?

Struggling to remain upright at the cocktail hour, I watched enviously as others laughed gaily, dipping their delicious coconut shrimp into sweet and sour sauce while balancing on a variety of sleek stilettos, strappy sandals and bejeweled mules.

I, however, was now so preoccupied by not falling that I gave up and just leaned on one of those high tables, grimly swilling my wine spritzer.

Catching sight of another woman in apparently similar circumstances--leaning on a table across the room, she and I made silent eye contact as we clung to the edge and watched the shrimp pass us by.

We couldn't eat and stand at the same time and we knew it.

Oddly, I never saw her again after that. Had she conceded defeat early to go wait in the car as her husband spent the evening wishing his wife could manage in sexy shoes like the other X chromosomes at the wedding? 

I finally settled on a bent knee walk, lowering my center of gravity enough to keep upright as I hobbled into the reception hall and made it to our table.

I removed my shoes soon after.

We've all seen women in their stockinged feet at weddings. Even the bride and her maids often change into flip flops but mine were off way too early in the evening so I kept seated for about an hour. I finally got up to walk to the bathroom but nearly crashed to the floor anyway as I skirted the periphery of an extremely slippery dance floor.

When we got home, I immediately tossed my shoes onto a tower of crap in the garage and, lo and behold, noticed the lower, more practical shoes in that very pile. 

I remembered then that even they had been a problem at a previous wedding and that I'd tossed them there with the same disgust with which I'd launched the higher heels I'd worn that night.
Or I could wear these.

It was at that moment that I realized that I would have to wear work boots to any weddings in the future. Maybe it will start a trend. 
Cybill Shepherd never, ever wears heels.


  1. Oh my goodness..... I so hear you. A month ago I had to go to a black tie affair with Jims company. The dreaded gown, and even more so the shoes. I went with an open toe as my podiatrist had recommended that instead of the crammed up pointy toe thingy due to my foot neurapathy. Well they were comfortable for the ride into the city but the first thing out of the car was steps going down to the lower floor of this big place. That was the first challenge, but it was carpeted so it wasn't horrible as I clung to the railings with my life. Then there was the cocktail hour. I have to tell you I tried standing still but the straps kept giving way under my body weight along with the heels slipping under me. I had to actually stand with my heels together and my toe part of my foot spread out like a duck. Or a ballet stance. It was all I could do to keep me from falling off the dang things. I ended off with my shoes off dancing away the night and was perfectly content. Theres a thing to be said about being barefoot and pregnant... though the pregnant part can no longer be.. lol.. Flats, hiking boots, slippers, and the low low low heal that has some substance to it is for me. I have a wedding to go to... oy....have no clue what Im wearing or what shoes are going to get the best of me... Your blog was too funny! Love you! Denise

  2. Denise, your experience was just like mine. Too funny.

    I now have a few pairs of shoes with "kitten" heels. They look nice for special events and I can walk from my table to the bathroom without fear.

    Thank you so much for your hilarious comment!! XXOO

  3. PLATFORM HEELS, LADIES! Platforms make heels better, they do!

  4. I wear wedges. Much easier to walk in and still stylish.

  5. Poor Niff - I hope he will be ok XO

  6. Anon, I understand why you recommend platforms but, for me, it's just farther to fall.

    Thanks for stoppingby!

  7. I do agree, Michele...much more stable. And I like the look!

  8. Nifi has been keeping to himself since he arrived home...but he is eating, drinking, pooping, peeing...keeping a close eye on him, though, Janet! XO

  9. I can’t wear really high heels either. :( My center of gravity gets all thrown off and I feel extremely unstable. Sad since leopard print hooker stilettos sound (and look!) so appealing. Oh and the plastic surgery bit is CRAZY!

  10. My toes went numb and the pain was ridiculous but I almost made it the whole night. I swore at every guy I saw in the lobby as I waited bare footed for the valet. "you men have it so effing easy"

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